This is an example of completed assignment by another participant with my comments, if your stuck this is the kind of thing I’m expecting:
Orignal Dancing Opener:
Hey so before I go out tonight I have to admit I cant dance so you seem like a cool guy and I was hoping maybe you could share some of your knowledge. I know it’s last minute but any advice on how not to look like a fool?
I only have a sec because I’m going to out to meet some friends but I want your opinion (time constraint) I started hosting meetup events where we all go dancing (display of high value), the problem is I’m just learning, you move well (for a girl) / you have good posture (guy), can you give me any quick pointers on dance moves or where to learn,
Oh great I was thinking of going to loca luna later? (name another club if at loca luna this is also stacking forward)
Why the change:
Time constraints: are important because when you say you’re going to only take a second it makes them less likely to say no, just to a small question.
DHV: Saying you host meetups is a subtle brag that you’re a leader, and do fun things also it gives you an easy transition to inviting them out, they may be more likely to interact with you if they think you will provide them value such as invites / discounts to clubs later on, this also explains to them why your approaching them in a non-sexually aggressive way so the question or request has some context, it will make people more likely to help you
Stacking Forward: this is prepping your next move to make it seem more natural this is what I call stacking forward, which is setting up your next conversation thread in advance.
Adopted Dog Crazy Owner Opener:
Excuse me I know it’s random but I could use an outside opinion on something very important considering mans best friend if you have a second. You see I have this “friend” who has had his dog rocky for 6 years now. He likes to jump up on people and pees everywhere but rocky is the complete opposite and is a fantastic well behaved dog, but my friend asked me if I thought it wise to let rocky know he was adopted. I’m not sure what to tell him, what should he do in your opinion?
My advice: I’m being a tad nitpicky here, to be honest I like this one a lot, and wish I thought of it
Hey you look smart and I know it’s random but I could use an outside opinion on something very important considering man’s best friend, don’t worry it will only take a second (time constraint plus qualification). You see I have this “friend” who has had his dog rocky for 6 years now. He likes to jump up on people and pees everywhere but the dog rocky is the complete opposite and is a fantastic well behaved, This is where it gets tough for me, my friend asked me if I thought it wise to let rocky know he was adopted. I’m not sure what to tell him, what should he do in your opinion?
No matter what they say respond, I knew you’re a cat person that’s horrible advice. Or man I need to force you all to watch the dog whisper with me.
(I previously used an opener where I would guess if some one was a cat or dog person and then explain why I thought that, and how most people want a pet that matches the traits of the guys they like this would be a good lead into that routine)
Why: This is really funny I like it, and it displays your playful personally, it may be a bit hard to go on from here but this is the one I’d push you to use.
Don’t say excuse me, treat everyone like they’re already your friend, if you start a conversation with me you’d say hey buddy or hi Patrick and just start talking.
I changed how your time constraint is worded, you don’t ask if they have a second, you tell them it will only take a second. If that makes you uncomfortable you can say don’t worry I’ll be out of your hair in a second.
New Guy Opener
Me: Excuse me but could you please tell me the time? I forgot to charge my phone and I’m waiting for some friends.
(they tell the time*)
Me: Oh wow! Really!? Thank you. I didn’t realize it was so early… you wouldn’t mind sharing your opinion with me on something would you?
(sure how can I help)
thank you, you see the truth is I’ve never met these people before tonight and I’m wanting to make a good impression. What’s your opinion on this cologne? Is it too strong?…
My Version: I don’t like this much, it’s to generic, and it comes off as needy, we will talk and we can revamp this one a bit in person.
Hey, this will only take a minute but I need some help, I’m a shy guy who my new friends have mistaken for a social butterfly because I started going to a bunch of parties and events, the problem is I just started getting out of my shell recently and I need a pretty girl’s opinion?
(sure how can I help)
it’s kind of intense, so are you ready for this, it might be the most important question your asked all night, this very question may change your life?
(Uh-huh i’m ready)
Ok here we go and I’m going to judge you forever on your answer to this,
What’s your opinion on this cologne? Is it too strong?… (this can be any meaningless question I do the this is the biggest question ever often and then follow with a pointless question and get laughs)
Hey thanks for your opinion you are really smart, one last favor I’m going to introduce myself to more people, grab my arm I’m going bring you with me so I look like the cool guy with the beautiful girl and they’re nicer to me. You can be my sexy body guard for 1 second and then I’ll introduce you to anyone you want to meet here.
No more “excuse me”
DHV: I plan parties, or I’m handsome so everyone thinks I’m popula
Use the cologne question or which ever to stack to something like going clothes shopping together, or asking her to walk around while you introduce yourself to people to make you look good.
Bold and memorable, it’s always easy to be less overt the top than it is to be more over the top.
Excuse me but I believe I recognize you from the last meetup we had but I never got the chance to introduce myself my name is Randy what’s yours? It’s a pleasure to meet you. You seem like the sort of person that might like to sing, are you going to the karaoke after this? You’ve never been? Well I guess now I’m gonna invite you because I promise you that even if you don’t want to sing you will have a blast. Let me ask you what is your opinion on meeting single women in a bar or club. You see as a guy I feel that if I approach a woman at a club then she is already in the mind set of assuming every guy that approaches is gonna be creeping. What are your thoughts about that?
Hey come over here troublemaker! This is only going to take a second but I want to tell you I was super bummed I didn’t get to introduce myself last meetup.
I didn’t get to you because you have such good energy and I get caught up helping the host make the shy people feel comfortable at these events (this can be used at my events, I’ll make you titled an event host on meetup)
I finally got a break and I’d love to get to know you better, (then talk about karaoke) (or your adventures trying to meet people)
(I personally will ask groups of women what their favorite song to sing at karaoke is, or what duet we’re going to do together now that we are best friends after that or even in their opinion what song describes this meetup, I then ask them if they want to join me for karaoke.)